Lost in Translation
Ever felt frustrated because you have been misunderstood?
Or when looking at the person speaking said to yourself where did THAT come from?
I just saw Bill Murray live in Sydney and was reminded of one of my favourite movies called Lost in Translation. This amazing script and acting, for me at least, sums up how we often talk to one another.
Lost in Translation meaning : Of a word or words, having lost or lacking the full subtlety of meaning or significance when translated from the original language to another, especially when done literally. (Usually formulated as “be/get lost in translation.”)
When we have conversations that leave us scratching our heads we then become reluctant to have future conversations and quite often think we will only be making it worse.
The more we use text to vet scary questions or deliver scary news the more the message can be misunderstood.
How do we navigate the complexities of conversations with things like irony, sarcasm, understanding and hurt feelings to deliver the “right” message. A message that we will be happy with in the moment and afterwards.
You can overcome the pain of misunderstandings by doing one simple thing
Asking yourself what story am I telling myself about what they said?
This question serves as acknowledgment that you are now judging their words and to move to checking in with yourself. There is no confrontation in asking this question.
Then asking quite simply, is that true, these two steps act as a pattern interrupter. You hear a logical question and because the mind can only think one thought at a time and you have just asked yourself a question, you will effectively be doing a change in direction or slight distraction. You will therefore be focussed on answering that question. The question has a calming effect on the body, unlike the confusion or irritation you had. After considering if its true, you will be more able to release feelings of frustration.
Research tells us that the energetic vibrations from our thoughts affect our physical realities, so practicing how you hear a message and challenging your truth allows a more relaxed nervous system and an easier flow of communication, inside your own head and with others. You can return to the conversation within seconds and reflect some of the things the other person was saying and your words will now be neutral allowing needs for connection to flourish.
This takes practice and I have something special as an introduction to what to do when being shut down, unheard or when you have to repeat requests several times for change to occur
I will be delivering a Webinar on November 20 at 12:00 Click below to register and for more details. I would love to see you there.
When: Nov 20, 2018 12:00 PM Canberra, Melbourne, Sydney
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